Grief: Grieving Our Dreams – Thy Will Be Done
The past couple of weeks I have been thinking about grief and all the ways that grief can come into our lives. For many, grief enters our life when someone we are close to dies. Most of us experience grief to some degree when we feel our hope and dreams are gone. We can feel hurt and confused. If you are a believer this might lead you to struggle with God’s love and His will. Because we know “Thy will be done” in the Lord’s Prayer (Matthew 6) it often makes it hard to walk in faith with God.
That reminds me of a song I have heard on the radio many times. Because of this past week it has become more meaningful. The song is: “Thy Will be Done” By Hillary Scott and the Scott Family. It spoke to the “Thy Will” of following Him especially when life’s circumstances do not go the way we thought they would. The dreams of adults are to find someone to love, to have a child, health, a career and have God leading our way. Our struggle is when life takes a turn we don’t want. Something that we don’t see coming. We are grieving for that life that was in our mind. Our faith is challenged to accept “Thy will be done”.
This last month I have been reminded of grief since my late husband died five years ago, in Feb, 2012. That was a definite change to my dreams and hopes. I was not prepared for all that happened. My grief was at times overwhelming and it took a while to be able to say “Thy will”. Last year in February I was feeling that God had a plan for me that I did not want – remaining a widow the rest of my life!
Yes, I struggled with saying to God, “Thy Will”. I was trying to be brave and look for someone to marry again – not easy for me. I was giving up when I tried an online dating site and was matched with Paul, a widower who loved God. Paul talked of finding God’s hope and dreams and love again. He reminded me that God loved me and had a plan for me. Although I wasn’t sure I saw the plan or the direction it would take, I knew He would lead if I let Him. A year later I am married to Paul. Together we are learning to serve God and move with new direction as He leads us.
There were others times God lead in a direction I did not want – not marring until I was 30, not being able to get pregnant then miscarrying my first pregnancy. I was able to have my daughter, yet not able to have all the children of my dreams. God’s plan, His will and now many years later my understanding.
On a recent visit with my parents, my dad told me he did not like the way his life was going. My parents are in their 80’s and life has struggles they did not want. I know he is a man of faith who has served God since his teen years. He is often confused and forgetting more. Dad gets angry because he is grieving a life he wanted – his choice on how to grow older. I reminded my dad that God had a plan, he should accept God’s will. My dad agreed, but said he did not like it. Please realize that at the time of our grief we do not have to like where we are. But never give up on His love. In time, we will find that He knows what is best. Jesus is with us in all things.
The song “Thy Will Be Done” says;
“I know you see me
I know you hear me, Lord
Your plans are for me
Goodness you have in store”
If you are grieving the loss of a person, a dream, your health or your hope for a future your way, know that God loves you. He is beside you, seeing and hearing you. He is leading you to the path of “Thy will” for your life. That will change you. It will bring you joy.